Love Is

When we truly experience love, it makes us so happy that we no longer know what to do with it. It expands to everything and everyone. This love is revealed to those who are able to accept and love themselves completely. For only through self-love can love flow outwards. Because love arises from within. And it all begins with freedom and solitude.

Love cannot be grasped by the ordinary mind. It is not sentimental or decorative. It is not the kind of love we know on Earth. This love is the origin of all human existence. It penetrates deeply into the soul of another and does not judge. Nothing can be hidden from it. It can endure all conflict; it is a constant unfolding. The more we open to love, the more we discover about ourselves. This love is intelligent.

To share such love with another being is perhaps the greatest gift the universe can offer and yet almost impossible, for it is rare that two souls meet who consciously carry this deep knowing within themselves. A soul like this knows that everything comes as it must. - IT IS AS IT IS. It takes responsibility for its actions and remains humble toward whatever life presents him along the way. Knowing that partnership with another soul is not always possible, it still maintains at every moment an intimate relationship with its own essence.

When two such souls meet, a sacred and ancient knowledge is revealed. Although the person may be a stranger, absolute trust arises. There is a deep knowing. It is a state of absolute truth. The mind cannot comprehend it, but the heart knows. This love is unconditional. It is more intimate and deeper than that between mother and child. It lives from the wish to see the other happy and fulfilled. It strengthens, supports, and brings forth the hidden treasures within you.

Rarely can a person who loves like this enter an ordinary partnership. Most people seek relationships because they hope the other will give them what they cannot give themselves, for example validation, safety, status, self-worth. We must distinguish between love and partnership. Love follows universal laws. Partnerships are made of action and reaction, of wishes and expectations. True love expects nothing. In relationships, love is never the problem, outdated structures, fears, and past wounds are.

We must remember: Love is not needy. It does not seek validation or approval. No one has to confirm it that it is lovable. It does not need recognition or affection to be happy. Love will never tell us whether the other persons love is real, it only reveals whether ours is real. If we worry whether we are loved, our love is not yet free, for we doubt our own worth. We destroy love by interfering with the other’s life, by trying to arrange it. True love never interferes, it knows that each being is free.

Love is freedom.

False love, however, becomes bondage, a burden, a chain. False love expects, demands, and becomes disappointed. That is Ego-Attachment, not love. If we truly look deeper, we find that many secretly long to be slaves, because most people fear freedom. Everyone speaks of freedom, yet few dare to live it. Because true freedom means standing alone.

Unable to live for ourselves, we start living for someone else. Two people who both fear their own loneliness meet and begin the game of “love.” In truth they seek dependence and captivity, and their wish is granted. Once fulfilled, the love fades, replaced by the wish to become free again. If we do not heal our heart, it becomes a vicious cycle.

In love, both must be free and independent. They may come together, even merge, but neither can possess the other. The moment you become dependent, you abandon your aloneness, and with that, you give up yourself. If two people wish to live together, they can. And if one day they no longer wish to, they can part. They came together freely, and they can separate freely. A man need not bind himself to one woman, nor a woman to one man, unless they find so much joy in one another that they choose it willingly for life.

Maintaining the space between two souls is love. Two free individuals live together without limiting each other’s freedom. Each keeps their own life. Love is not jealous, never suspicious. It never imposes itself. It gives freedom and strengthens the soul. When you love, you wish to see your partner happy. You are together to make each other more joyful, not to create duties. The more space you give one another, the closer you become. The more freedom you allow, the deeper the intimacy grows.

Love is aloneness.

Aloneness is beautiful and ecstatic. It is silence, peace, and deep safety. Yet as we grow older, we adopt the belief that only company can make us happy. Being alone becomes something sad, dark, or lacking, and we try to fill that void with others. It has become normal never to be alone. We must always be surrounded by people. But as we grow older, we realize that something essential is missing, and we feel lonelier than ever.

Why can we not live without company? It is our deep need to be needed. This need blocks both love and solitude. The desire to be needed comes from the ego, not the soul. The ego feeds on admiration; the soul is nourished by love. We often love only to feel needed. But once that need falls away, we no longer require anyone to affirm our worth. Our value no longer depends on others.

We feed our ego with false pride. When someone of the opposite sex looks at us, we suddenly feel important and alive. Yet if the same person looks at us every day, the effect fades. That is the mark of false love. Real love deepens with time; false love needs novelty to survive. True intimacy is not about Sex. The ego needs to feel significant through conquest. Love wants to go deep with one person. The ego must be fed from the outside, but love is nourished from within.

Those who see through their ego’s needs recognize them as not only useless, but harmful. They offer no real fulfillment, only momentary illusion. Once you transcend the need for approval, you can finally be alone, and eventually, aloneness becomes peaceful. You no longer feel lonely or unimportant. The restlessness and meaninglessness vanish. You no longer need crowds or eyes to feel real. Such a person can neither be made unhappy nor manipulated, for they have learned to be happy within themselves. They are whole.

If you can be alone, you can love. And if you can love, no one can ever take your happiness away.

To find yourself is to find the joy and meaning of life. It is the greatest discovery a human being can make, and it happens only in aloneness. When there is nothing, a miracle occurs. That nothingness is what we seek in meditation: no thoughts, no mind, no “I.” In that state, awareness turns upon itself. A circle closes. When consciousness finds no object, it returns to its source.

And once this circle completes, we are no longer ordinary beings. We become part of the divine, a heartbeat in rhythm with the universe. We are all-one. That is the principle of the Whole.

It is beautiful to be alone, and beautiful to be filled with love among others. They complement each other, not oppose each other. When you enjoy being with others, do it fully. And when you are in solitude, embrace it fully. Do not choose. Choice creates division. Why choose, when both are yours to live?

Through meditation we touch infinite silence; through love, life becomes a song. When we move effortlessly between the two, we have learned the greatest art of all. The eternal dilemma is choosing between meditation or love, solitude or relationship, sexuality or stillness. It is one and the same question. Those who choose only one half suffer, for they remain incomplete. Love and aloneness are one.

The truth is: we can only enjoy solitude when we also enjoy relationship. Relationship gives birth to the desire for aloneness, and aloneness gives birth to the longing to share ones Love. This is the natural rhythm of life.

The problem is that most people do not know how to remain themselves within a relationship. They feel confined, drained, overwhelmed. Yet the relationship is not the problem, only the lack of space within it. When space returns, love breathes again. After solitude, love blossoms anew. The two are not enemies but eternal partners like day and night, summer and winter.

Love arises from aloneness. Aloneness fills you, and love empties you again so that you can be filled once more. Heaven and Earth, body and soul meet and merge. Meditation leads to love, and love leads to meditation. They are not separate; they are one. Like two sides of a single coin.

Love gives freedom. It helps the other to be themselves. It makes us one soul in two bodies, yet preserves our individuality. It helps us let go of the small self and awaken to the greater Self.

That is happiness and the ecstatic moment of union.

— Angela